Sunday, January 18, 2009

I'm Just Not That Into You...

Dating is certainly a hot topic as of recently.

I've been on a few dates with Nice Boy since we first met at a mutual friend's Christmas party in the beginning of December. Yesterday, I ended it. It was difficult and I feel horrible, as I have always been the one who does the breaking up and it doesn't get any easier - even when you are just dating and haven't defined the relationship, or lackthereof.

However, as I stated last week, I just was not into him. I want the butterflies and the sparks, and while they were there on the first 2 dates - afterwards, it just spiraled quickly downwards as I got to know him. He was very overly affectionate, calling/texting everyday, wanting to see me everyday... (He reminded me a bit of this guy.) While it's all very sweet, it was just too much, too soon. Plus he got me not one but two bouquets of flowers for my birthday and brought me pearl earrings back from his trip to Hawaii. (This was all only after two dates.)

So, I let him know that I was not looking for a relationship/commitment and wanted to be honest with him before things got too far. He still wants to "hang out occasionally, as friends" and he let me know that he will be there for me for me in case I ever need a friend. I could tell he was hurt (I would be!), but I knew that it was the right thing to do. And especially earlier rather than let it drag on.

Sigh.

3 comments:

Distar January 19, 2009 at 1:16 PM  

good for you MM.

Why is it that the majority of men are too stiflingly sweet or assholes? It's the few that are in the middle that are really the ones you want to date. Unfortunately I think when the nice guys get rejected they morph into the assholes rather than the moderates. Don't you wish you could give them honest feedback (ie don't overdo it?) so that they can learn from it. You sound a tad spoiled complaining that he got you two bouquets AND earings for your bday, but at the same time we are girls and we all want a bit of a chase right?

Money Maus January 19, 2009 at 2:31 PM  

@D - I agree. I have recently dealt w/ both the overwhelming sweet & the asshole! Wish I could have told him that he was just too over-the-top for me esp when the feeling wasn't mutual. I do sound spoiled, huh? But it was more the shock of so much, so fast that I didn't know how to handle it - and I enjoy the chase as much as the guy does, however there was NO chase here! ;) (Your advice is always great, though!)

SavingDiva January 20, 2009 at 6:23 PM  

Congrats on being an adult and ending things. It does suck though...

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